Last Sunday I left the house three times.. Once to go for a run, once to get hot chips for lunch (because you know I had been running), and later to buy groceries..
Our kids spent the entire day playing, eating, driving me crazy, building cubby houses, playing uno, watching a family movie and baking cookies. The most frequently spoken words that day were, “Let’s pretend…!”
We spent the entire day doing nothing.. and it was perfect! I didn’t wonder if I should be doing something with them, or taking them somewhere, and it was perfect. I can’t remember the last time this has happened..
Confucius once said, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
And don’t we?
Hear me out for a second, and tell me if this sounds at all familiar: I am the one that makes our family’s life complicated. I am the one who thinks that we must do everything, participate in it all, be everything and everywhere..
Well what I’ve learned in my self reflection over the last couple of years is that I complicate things.. During my calm moments of clarity, I am able to recognise the need to slow down and just be..
Unscheduled, unsupervised, playtime is not only good for the kids but for me too!
Simply put, what our children need and what we all need is permission to do nothing..
Growing up, my sisters and I spent entire days blissfully doing nothing.. We were not transported back and forth to activities, sports, camps, school, and playgrounds.. We got ourselves to and from school and we had one after school activity per week (if that) in which we would either go with another parent (back when there were villages) or is was strategically picked to allow us to ride there and back..
Looking back on this now, it’s so clear to me how my mum was able to gracefully do it all.. She worked full-time, raised three kids, and never made it look hard.. What I now see is that she had the constant support of our grandparents to help with school picks ups and mid week sleepovers and she did not insist on making it complicated.. She even accepted help when it was offered..
And gifts when they were offered too.. You should do the same! We have a gift waiting for you here --->